As Women and Mothers...

As women and mothers we should never ever allow ourselves to feel guilty for weak moments. We’re so scared of what someone else will say or think if we expose raw areas of our lives that we keep those areas mostly hidden. We only post the bright and cheery stuff on social media. God forbid anyone should know our lives are anything less than perfect. We don’t talk about being abused for fear of being blamed or ridiculed. We don’t talk about how truly difficult dark times in our lives have been. 

Sure we talk about the surface pain; we talk about our hearts hurting or our feelings being hurt. But we’re so worried about looking weak, and being less than the next woman that we don’t allow ourselves to be raw and open with those that care about us. We close up our feelings, inadvertently causing hurt we don’t know were causing to ourselves as well as those around us. Shoving our feelings down, pretending everything is fine when we’re being eaten up about something...It just ends up smothering relationships that are otherwise inspiring and so very joyous. 

It can be like a domino effect. If we can lay aside our egos, our pride, and maybe a little dignity to talk about the hard stuff, others will see that hey this person is dealing with things that I’m dealing with, or this person is dealing with hard things and they’re having trouble, then maybe she’ll feel a tiny bit more comfortable divulging her own story, her own heartbreak, her own trauma. She’ll know she isn’t alone. 

Even though we might not have anything brilliant or profound to say, sometimes it’s just nice to have a hand to hold, a shoulder to lean on. Someone who is trying to understand even if they really don’t...they’re putting forth effort. That counts!!  We have to stop putting others down because we think their pain is less significant than our own. We have to stop treating our pain as less than someone else's. We have to stop treating other's pain as less than our own. 

I love this quote almost as much as I love bacon. Be bacon bits in the salad bowl of life!!