Whoever said marriage was going to be filled solely of happy times? Butterflies and Glitter, constantly? Well, let me tell you something. Butterflies die and glitter gets in your eyes. Also, life is tough. Get a helmet. With that said, marriage is filled with challenges on the daily. Sometimes you dislike each other so much it's infuriating. But that doesn't mean you just throw the towel in. Marriage is not for the faint hearted. And it is, most certainly, not for wimps.
I'm refreshed to know that Jon and I aren't the only couple who want to rip each others throats out sometimes. I love him profusely, but some days I would rather smack him over the head with a baseball bat, and some nights I would rather sleep on the couch.
But really! Let's be logical, shall we? Why in the world do I expect myself to be happy with my husband 100% of the time? Do I expect myself to be happy with any other person 100% of the time? Uh. No. That, my friends, is a ridiculous expectation. Seriously. Living with someone, being around them ALL the time, is exhausting. No wonder America's divorce rate is through the roof. Sheesh! Like I said...marriage is not for wimps. It requires more commitment, acceptance, love, honesty and trust than any other relationship. And all these characteristics are choices. And they are characteristics that must be practiced constantly.
Jon and I have been together for over 5 years now. We've been married for almost 4 years. To be honest with you, I didn't love him the day we got married. I was attracted to him. Very much so. I enjoyed being around him. Of course. Holding his hand was (and still is) one of my favorite things to do. And those blue eyes...Wowza!! Over the past 5 years, I've learned to love him. Now I love him more than I ever thought possible. And guess what? You can't unlearn to love someone. It's like riding a bike. It's difficult sometimes...like when you're pedaling up a hill. But you eventually get to the top, and usually you can coast to the bottom of the other side. Just like in marriage, or in any relationship for that matter, there will be many many hills to pedal over. Pedaling over those hills in marriage won't produce amazing calves, but it will give you the most beautiful marriage.
If I love him this much today, after just 5 years together, I can't imagine what this love will grow to through the rest of this 'Until death do we part...' commitment.
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| August 25th, 2007 |
1 comment:
"Just keep peddling, just keep peddling" I think you're on the right track sweety...pretty amazing that you can be with the same person for so much of the time and for so many years and still think they are pretty great most of the time. Yep there's hills and mountains ahead, enjoy the ride.
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